I recently read and really enjoyed Unglued: Making Wise Choices in the Midst of Raw Emotions by Lysa TerKeurst. What a good read for mamas (or whoever else) who can get frustrated and explode on others and then feel bad about it. Plus, the cover picture is a mama screaming into her purse. I’m guessing most moms can definitely relate to that feeling!
So what’s the book about? TerKeurst looks into how we deal with emotions and hurt, categorizing our reactions into four types:
- Exploder who blames others
- Exploder who shames herself
- Stuffer who builds barriers
- Stuffer who collects retaliation rocks
I identified with all of those types because I react differently with different people and in different situations. Usually it depends on my comfort level with the person; for example, with my daughters (and a lot of my students over the years) I have been the exploder who blames them…yikes! But with those I don’t feel so comfortable with, I do my share of stuffing down the hurt and just building a wall, which eventually leads to severed relationships…so sad!
TerKeurst is funny and real, using of examples of when she’s exploded on others. And she offers some real strategies to replace the exploding and stuffing. Her main suggestions: redirect your focus on Jesus and shift to an attitude of gratitude. Her motto is, “If this is the worst thing that happens to me today, it’s still a pretty good day.” And her big thing is imperfect progress; you just gotta keep putting in work, and although it may be two steps forward and one step back, keep your focus on the forward part and ask for grace and forgiveness on the backward part. But I’m really not doing her book justice in this brief summary. If you’re like me and need a little help with the hot-head in you, check out her book.